Abuse, Bullying, Narcissim
Is someone you live or work with exceptionally selfish and inconsiderate -though perhaps superficially charming and pleasant?
Are you always being put down, belittled, sidelined, blamed for problems and made to feel that everything is your fault?
Between 1-4% of the population are either “SOCIOPATHS” or “PSYCOPATHS”
The sad fact is that you only need to encounter one of these people to feel a negative impact on your life, infact: you may have already encountered such a person.
If you have ever had an interaction with somebody who left you feeling scared and unsettled, even though they weren’t overly violent – you may have encountered a PSYCOPATH. If allowed to begin their manipulative behaviour patterns – PSYCOPATH’S can ruin lives, as a matter fact – ruin entire families.
In some cases: this is simply because, the person does not get along with you for personal reasons, more often than not, its all about CONTROL.
However, in rarer or much more dangerous cases, it may be that the person who doesn’t care about your best interest, is also the person who has convinced you that they love or respect you.
These people are “PSYCOPATHS” and “SOCIOPATHS”
Their behaviour is addressed as “NARCISSIM” – they are what we call: Master Manipulators. These people use devastating strategies to get what they want from you and even the people that you care about, with absolutely no regard for the effects their actions might have on others.
This is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others. They will “gaslight” or use “master manipulation” to weaken and destabilise you. They will trick you by confusing you so that you will remain under their control.They will patronise you by saying things like:
“I’m sorry if I said something to confuse you, but I have strong opinions.”
“Maybe your just too sensitive.”
“You know I would never deliberately hurt you.”
Themselves
Their status
What they “deserve” in life
Their right to “appreciation” & “attention” from everyone else
Their “superiority” to the rest of the world
Attention is like OXYGEN for a Narcissist. They believe only special people get attention – and that they are special. Other people matter to the Narcissist in as much as they:
-Constantly make it plain that they "recognise & admire" the Narcissist's importance and superiority in every aspect, and also that they are useful to them in some way.
Your failure to meet these requirements may lead you to being either:
ABUSED
BULLIED
CRITICISED
DUMPED
The key to dealing with narcissistic behaviour is understanding your usefulness. Are you useful to the particular person you have to deal with. You may wonder why someone who can be so horrid to you doesn't just get on and dump you. However, you can be sure that if they are maintaining the relationship in spite of criticising you to pieces, they are getting some benefit out of it.
Should you challenge their behaviour
Should you attempt to negotiate new rules for the relationship
Should you admit that nothing can be done and leave
Should you find a way to cope with it
Not only are these questions hard in themselves, but by the time you get to asking them: you may not be in a great state yourself!
This is because a long association with a Narcissist, who can either be:
a husband
a wife
a partner
a parent
a child
a friend
a boss
a co-worker
Will leave you emotionally bruised and battered, if not physically so, and that makes it difficult to think clearly and make good decisions. So: the very first thing to do is: not worry about focusing on what YOU are going to do about them, instead focus on what are YOU going to do about YOU and how YOU are going to survive.
Firstly: you need to re-build YOUR confidence and YOUR self-esteem. Doing this program will give you the ability to learn to recognise it when it comes your way and deal with it by learning the following:
Understand the patterns of Narcissism
Untangle yourself from the web of blame and stay detached
Gain the clarity to work out the best way forward for yourself
And most importantly: to stay relaxed as much as possible even in times of great stress and pressure
A constant need for praise or admiration. People with this behaviour need to feel validation from others, and often brag or exaggerate their accomplishments for recognition.
They also like to feel appreciated to boost their ego.
When a Narcissist doesn’t get his/her own way and feels threatened or attacked by others in some way, they will go into RAGE.
This usually involves verbal threats, aggression and possibly violence
You think you are going out of your mind being in a state of confusion
Feeling completely petrified, lost, and helpless
Have lost all communication with family & friends
You cannot go on any longer
Can’t stay silent anymore
Realise its time to take a stand
Want to change your life
Have no idea where to look or who to go to for help
THIS IS THE EXIT PLAN YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR
So: if you are truly ready to STEP UP and STEP IN to a new confident, strong, fearless and empowered version of yourself – do not be afraid, give Tina a call.
Your safety and confidentiality is of the utmost importance here.
YES IT IS POSSIBLE to be free and live your life in peace, joy and happiness
Between 1-4% of the population are either “SOCIOPATHS” or “PSYCOPATHS”
The sad fact is that you only need to encounter one of these people to feel a negative impact on your life, infact: you may have already encountered such a person.
If you have ever had an interaction with somebody who left you feeling scared and unsettled, even though they weren’t overly violent – you may have encountered a PSYCOPATH. If allowed to begin their manipulative behaviour patterns – PSYCOPATH’S can ruin lives, as a matter fact – ruin entire families.
In some cases: this is simply because, the person does not get along with you for personal reasons, more often than not, its all about CONTROL.
However, in rarer or much more dangerous cases, it may be that the person who doesn’t care about your best interest, is also the person who has convinced you that they love or respect you.
These people are “PSYCOPATHS” and “SOCIOPATHS”
Their behaviour is addressed as “NARCISSIM” – they are what we call: Master Manipulators. These people use devastating strategies to get what they want from you and even the people that you care about, with absolutely no regard for the effects their actions might have on others.
This is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others. They will “gaslight” or use “master manipulation” to weaken and destabilise you. They will trick you by confusing you so that you will remain under their control.They will patronise you by saying things like:
“I’m sorry if I said something to confuse you, but I have strong opinions.”
“Maybe your just too sensitive.”
“You know I would never deliberately hurt you.”
Themselves
Their status
What they “deserve” in life
Their right to “appreciation” & “attention” from everyone else
Their “superiority” to the rest of the world
Attention is like OXYGEN for a Narcissist. They believe only special people get attention – and that they are special. Other people matter to the Narcissist in as much as they:
-Constantly make it plain that they "recognise & admire" the Narcissist's importance and superiority in every aspect, and also that they are useful to them in some way.
Your failure to meet these requirements may lead you to being either:
ABUSED
BULLIED
CRITICISED
DUMPED
The key to dealing with narcissistic behaviour is understanding your usefulness. Are you useful to the particular person you have to deal with. You may wonder why someone who can be so horrid to you doesn't just get on and dump you. However, you can be sure that if they are maintaining the relationship in spite of criticising you to pieces, they are getting some benefit out of it.
A constant need for praise or admiration. People with this behaviour need to feel validation from others, and often brag or exaggerate their accomplishments for recognition.
They also like to feel appreciated to boost their ego.
When a Narcissist doesn’t get his/her own way and feels threatened or attacked by others in some way, they will go into RAGE.
This usually involves verbal threats, aggression and possibly violence
Should you challenge their behaviour
Should you attempt to negotiate new rules for the relationship
Should you admit that nothing can be done and leave
Should you find a way to cope with it
TAKING ACTION IS NOT EASY
Not only are these questions hard in themselves, but by the time you get to asking them: you may not be in a great state yourself!
This is because a long association with a Narcissist, who can either be:
a husband
a wife
a partner
a parent
a child
a friend
a boss
a co-worker
Will leave you emotionally bruised and battered, if not physically so, and that makes it difficult to think clearly and make good decisions. So: the very first thing to do is: not worry about focusing on what YOU are going to do about them, instead focus on what are YOU going to do about YOU and how YOU are going to survive.
Firstly: you need to re-build YOUR confidence and YOUR self-esteem. Doing this program will give you the ability to learn to recognise it when it comes your way and deal with it by learning the following:
Understand the patterns of Narcissism
Untangle yourself from the web of blame and stay detached
Gain the clarity to work out the best way forward for yourself
And most importantly: to stay relaxed as much as possible even in times of great stress and pressure
You think you are going out of your mind being in a state of confusion
Feeling completely petrified, lost, and helpless
Have lost all communication with family & friends
You cannot go on any longer
Can’t stay silent anymore
Realise its time to take a stand
Want to change your life
Have no idea where to look or who to go to for help
THIS IS THE EXIT PLAN YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR
So: if you are truly ready to STEP UP and STEP IN to a new confident, strong, fearless and empowered version of yourself – do not be afraid, give Tina a call.
Your safety and confidentiality is of the utmost importance here.
YES IT IS POSSIBLE to be free and live your life in peace, joy and happiness
